Today, I finally got a distinction as to my internal battle.
My Red — the Shark — drives me to continue pursuing my need for Liberty.
But my Yellow — the Dolphin — is the one that has me fantasizing about my Recognition For Creative Expression.
Nothing wrong with that in the long term.
But in the short term…that’s another matter.
My Red will have me make the phone calls…set up the meetings…and sit down over Zoom or at Starbucks.
(As I did today, for the first time in almost 3 years!).
My Red will have me go back to the grocery store to recruit the cashier with the great attitude, who I met the day before.
But my Yellow will have me be too intimidated to connect with the successful gentleman I met in the local sandwich shop just a few minutes later.
Davene and Lori both helped me see that it really is a choice.
I need to make a choice which Color shows up. And if it’s the one that doesn’t work for my intention?
Simply re-choice and choose the other.
And that actually showed up today.
I met with a hungry, eager Lyft driver who gave me a ride on Friday.
He’s got a great attitude and a great story.
I asked him a few questions and let him do most of the talking…letting his share dictate which direction I was going to take the conversation.
After I got all the information I needed, I painted a massive vision of the future.
One, that was probably too big and too much for his tired brain. (He admitted that, working 8 to 10 hour days seven days a week was turning his mind to mush.) But he is open to furthering the conversation.
When he left, his chair was empty.
A young woman — still a student at the University of Toronto — promptly situation herself down.
And this is when my Two Personalities melded masterfully!
My Yellow greeted her in a friendly manner.
Her Red caught my notebook, entitled “Plans For World Domination”.
That started a great conversation.
My Yellow asked her questions about herself.
Her Red showed up in all its glory as she told me about her dreams of becoming an entrepreneur.
This was when my Red appeared and told her about my business. She was totally enthralled as she immediately got it. I then edified a woman leader in our marketplace and my prospect is very eager to meet her.
I gave her my card and we connected on LinkedIn.
I reached out to this woman leader to see if she would be open to doing a Zoom.
She is leaving tomorrow on a cruise and says she definitely will when she returns.
Unfortunately my Yellow said “Okay!”. (She really is a dynamic woman!).
Had my Red showed up in that moment, I would have reached out to another woman I had in mind to try and arrange for a Zoom sooner.
It’s in moments like these that I need to direct my Red to SHOW UP IN ALL YOUR MASCULINE GLORY!!!!!!!
And tell my Yellow to just shut up and go play somewhere else.
FYI: Despite the apparent similarities, that kid in the photo is not me.
My name is Khush and I approve this message.