I happen to be sucker for cliché’s…
It is sort of like a love-hate relationship…
Sometimes they are so touchy… feely… soppy… ugh!
And then other times they are so true that you fully grasp why they exist!
For every end there is a new beginning!
So, the sad pessimist in me immediately screams: I didn’t want it to end!
But then luckily the optimist in me pulls back his shoulders, pushes out his chest, clears his throat and shouts back: Suck it up big boy! Life happens! Make the best of it!
So I’ve been thinking… what do I want?
I came to the realization that I have given up on me somewhere along the line… life happened… divorce happened…
Not that I am complaining, as I really wanted to be happily married… well I was married… don’t know about the happily part… cliché!
And being called dad is the most beautiful sound in the world…
I still love the mother of my children very much, but in a plutonic way… never thought I would say that… and I will always be a dad… and even though I don’t see my children as much as I would like to, I do see them often…
And that brings me to the new beginning…
I now have more time on hand to either be sad and miserable about getting divorced and losing what seemed like my identity in the process, or I can suck it up and carve out the life for me that I always wanted! Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that wifey dearest (ex) and my children were preventing me from living my life, it is just that I was trying so hard to be a good husband and fully present and involved father that I lost sight of almost all my other dreams and aspirations.
Besides, wifey dearest (ex) and I get along better now than ever before… it only took us many wasted years fighting about crap, lots of money wasted on lawyers and a lot of heartache and pain and finally a divorce to get along… not a recipe I would recommend to anyone! She is now my biggest fan and she is a really great mother to our children. I don’t have much day-to-day responsibilities other than following my bliss and carving out my Definite Major Purpose exactly the way I want it.
And what kind of example would I be setting for my children if I don’t bounce back and make the most of my life?
I still have a lot of life left in me!
To the unfoldment of me…
cheers indeed Gerhard to the unfoldment of you & what an amazing post about transformation & how you can now focus on following your bliss and carving out your Definite Major Purpose exactly the way you want it.
I’m looking forward to reading all about the manifestation of it in your life 🙂
Cheers to the unfoldment of you!
Sounds like you have a win-win situation, Gerhard! Thanks for sharing your story.
Amazing and fantastic blog post Gerhard! I really enjoy much following you on this journey. And I’m sure your story speaks to many as well. You have seemed to transform your experiences of your divorce to valuable life wisdom, and also to a closer knowledge about yourself. You are doing a marvelous job!
“So I’ve been thinking… what do I want?” Gerhard, you are doing the steps to get there. Keep it up.
Wow Gerhard, what a powerful post! It seems that you have been able (consciously or not?) to transform a big part of the suffering created before and after your divorce situation into valuable information about yourself…Your last sentence about bouncing back and being an example for your kids is a beautiful proof of this! Congratulations, and welcome in the Master Key Experience community!