MKE Week 13 – Learning to “BE” the observer

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I am not sure what to write about today as so much has happened for me and within me. The good and easy things to talk about is the Mental Diet has not been a difficult task as I am a positive and happy person. I made a joke with my friends that I’m getting grumpy, and everyone just laughed and said “YOU????” I really am that happy go lucky guy.

My struggle has been my opinions and learning to bite on my tongue. I am usually the first one to let people know how great they have done, supporting and shouting it out loud from the roof top. This is probably why people as me for my opinion.

It is a constant struggle to keep my own opinions to myself especially when not asked. I found myself several times this week catching myself with a less than stellar opinion and kept it to myself. I am so glad I did, as not only would my comments be unwelcomed, but could have changed the dynamics of some friendships.

What did happen was I really learned to be the observer. This is a skill in progress, and I find challenging.

What did happen was by keeping myself quiet I was able to see a bigger picture and was able to support my friend in a much better way. From this one event a mutual friend came to me and thanked me for my support for our friend at his difficult time. This unexpected conversation opened a new and different dialogue, and a business relationship was born.

“It will be found that the creative power of thought will explain every possible condition or experience, whether physical, mental or spiritual.”

Charles Haanel, The Master Key System, 13:15

My daily sits had me thinking much about this event and as I reflected on this event, I realized that there was so much going on around me that I didn’t see at the time.

Again, the teacher appears when you are ready and looking for making changes. Here come Mark J, the Fabulous Davene and the MKE crew giving me a workable skill to help me make the leap to the $100,000.00 door.

Using NARC is a game changer for me as I was trying to find the key to make changes. Keeping this as the focus, my procrastinating activities have disappeared. I used to say, “first things first,” and still will, but a better statement in my mind is “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.”

My daily sits have changed in a nature where I am really thinking about me and what is changing inside me. I look more around me to see what else I might be missing, staying quiet with my opinions.

I have found security in not making comments by flipping through my deck of cards. Just a few cards puts me back in the flow of giving and receiving, allowing me the opportunity to be the observer I want to grow. I would like to say it’s a miracle, but it is the only result that would happen from everything I have learned and practiced in the Master Key Experience!

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  • Awesome post Michael, you are doing so great. Unwelcomed opinions are so hard to control but it seems like that is now under control. Being the observer is so much better. I really enjoyed your reflections!!

  • Yes, Michael, Mark J and Fab D, are terrific teachers! The time you took to find it, was Universally agreed as perfect, because the main thing is you got here — and that’s what counts most! 🙂

  • Awesome blog post Michael, I love that quote from Haanel about physical, mental and spiritual – thanks!

  • Inspirational blog post Michael! “What did happen was by keeping myself quiet I was able to see a bigger picture and was able to support my friend in a much better way”. This really struck me and made me remember past times when I throw out advice here and there in the best caring sense, of course, and how my relationships changed when I went to be a observer. So much I discovered, not only about others but also about myself. Thank you for sharing such important reflections and observations Michael!

  • Beautiful awakenings, Michael! NARC was a game changer for me. No more procrastination on what’s really important after that. Thanks so much for sharing!!

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