For a while now I have been struggling with a person in my life with whom I have constant close interaction, who does not see my light, only the cement that covers it.
This has shaken my idea of myself and inspired me to spend hours and hours worrying, avoiding this person, and crying.
People observing this phenomenon have proposed that perhaps this person is jealous, projecting, or crazy, but I was determined not to fall into the trap of demonizing someone else because of my own pain.
Instead I wrestled with changing myself into the person that would gain approval from this person. This however, did not work as intended. My cheery hellos, responsible actions, and easy going approach did not fix the problem.
What “solved” the problem was seeing the light in this person and giving them my love and compassion for the lie that they were believing about me, and therefore must be believing about themselves or other people.
It did not fix our relationship, but it solved my relationship with myself and the world around me. I can now move forward in being the light underneath the concrete, knowing that I can and may need to defend my light with love and compassion from others who are still under the impression that our cement defines us. I feel so much lighter and free.