This week spoke with me – when I had to visualize the roller coaster, I no more felt excitement than fly. In fact, I started shaking and my stomach ached. This is what I feel every time I think of something to do with heights – or the fear of unknown. Its quite the physiological response.
My husband has NO fear of anything to do with heights. I never want to hold him back and always surprise him with tickets (single tickets only!) for things like skydiving, the CN Tower experience, bungee jumping and anything else I think he would love. Just the thought of it has brought me physical anxiety over the years.
After the CN Tower experience, he told me that after I continually expressed MY fear to him, he was actually nervous before it started. He got to the top and leaned out over the edge and said to himself “this is crazy, i’m NOT fearful”.
t was a learning moment for me – what we think about expands.
Although you’ll never find me jumping out of a plane unless it’s on fire (surprisingly I’m OK with ziplining – going across, not down), I have noticed that the longer I am in a line waiting for something I have not done before (ie. first time snow tubing / race car driving, etc,) …. it allows my brain to dwell on my fear and by the time I reach the front of the line, I’m a nervous wreck. Usually the fear is unfounded and I have a great time. It is proof that what we focus on expands!
I am completely OK if I make a last minute decision and then IMMEDIATELY take action – there is no time for the fear to rear its ugly head. This is another reason to DO IT NOW as opposed to putting off a ‘difficult’ task.
After today’s course, I will attempt to have my brain focus on me being EXCITED while I wait in a line. I’ll see if that makes a difference.
And, next time I pick up the phone to cold call, I’m going to be EXCITED to help out the person who answers.