The one thing I could not wrap my head around was the idea of a sacrifice. I just couldn’t understand why we would be encouraged to let go of the metaphorical banana – while also repetitively reading what our banana is.
I found myself rebelling against this requirement as strongly as I had embraced the idea of letting go of what holds me back by simply turning my focus to something else.
I could easily rattle off what I think would make the list of things to sacrifice. Video games, social media scrolling, TV shows. I could even see how these things did little to further my mission on Earth.
I just didn’t want to write them down and promise to stop doing them. Because anything we deny ourselves becomes an obsession I rationalized. Because these things help keep me entertained, happy and regulated, and that’s important, I reasoned.
But I had already learned this lesson a long time ago. When I was younger I played a LOT of video games and I knew that it was getting in the way of living the life I wanted. I decided to sacrifice them in order to get the things I wanted in life. And it worked back then. I got the boyfriend, travel experiences, friends, grades, and creative outlets I wanted when I let go of them.
Why was now different? It isn’t. Would I go back and choose the video games if given the chance? No. Can I be brave and choose to let things go now? Yes.
Not only yes, but a resounding, happy yes! This means that I can add even more to my life: novel new ways to be happy, entertained, and regulated using methods that are actually aligned with my future goals!!!
The word sacrifice needs a branding facelift. It’s a positive thing. It is a replacement of less helpful methods of getting needs met for other more aligned methods of getting those same needs met! How does that have a negative connotation?!
Sometimes we get to go around the mountain more that once, Aschel! Sounds like you’ve successfully worked through most of it.
Great perspective Aschel.
Well said Loren..Sacrifice clears the runway.
Sacrifice clears the runway for bigger more valuable projects like your DMP, Aschal. Your blog sheds revealing light on this idea, Nice! 🙂
There is such liberation in your words and thank you for sharing your epiphany Aschel.
I am excited for you.