Perfectionism stops many of us from reaching our goals because we forget that the creation of something great requires us to change, stumble and sometimes even start over. As a fellow perfectionist, sometimes I am paralyzed with the process because I’m afraid of failing and starting over. My cure has been to just start and I remind myself to be ok with the outcome. Before I figured this out, I often didn’t even begin.
Recently I spent about 7 weeks creating a life plan through writing, pictures, creating a movie trailer only to feel like it didn’t quite match what I want over the next decade… This meant I needed to begin again, step by step with a combination of thought, heart and gut. It meant digging deep and asking the hard questions, like. “What do you REALLY want, Ann?”
Over my 5 decades, I have accomplished many things I was initially afraid of; joining the Army National Guard in High School, moving out of state, becoming a pharmacist, becoming a mom, managing pharmacies, running a half marathon, lifting 275lb in a deadlift competition, winning a sword in a bench press competition, finishing cycle Oregon event, becoming a financial advisor, and leaving my pharmacy career to create my own business are just a few I can recall.
Even though they are all very different accomplishments, the one thing they all have in common is that I REALLY wanted to finish them. Often, I was unsure of the how, I only knew I wanted to do it.
These days, I am more aware of my feelings and I use activity to blast through the fear of failure, starting over and many other obstacles my subconscious tries to drum up to keep me comfortable.