Chapter 13 of The Greatest Salesman brought a new level of awareness to me. Og says, “All nature is a circle of moods and I am a part of nature and, so like the tides, my moods will rise; my moods will fall.” He describes the natural internal process of emotions by saying, “Inside me is a wheel, constantly turning from sadness to joy, from exultation to depression, from happiness to melancholy.” I knew on some level that this was true, but I hadn’t accepted it as a fact of nature.
There are times in life when I feel sad, upset, or scared and that is completely normal and appropriate. Certain situations in life warrant different emotions. It wouldn’t be healthy for me or anyone else to always feel happy and enthusiastic. For example, if a loved one dies, I should feel grief and sadness. If I didn’t, I’d be a psychopath! My coach says that if I could get rid of any emotion I want, I’d still keep the “negative” ones because they are necessary part of my humanity.
All this makes sense on paper; however, I noticed I still felt frustrated or surprised when something would happen, and I felt any of those “negative” emotions. I had this idea in my head, this expectation, that anything other than joy, peace, love, and positivity wasn’t ok and tried to “get over” them as soon as possible. I realized I set up an impossible standard for my emotions. I started exploring why and I thought of what I read from Hannel.
“We know that every mental action is a vibration, and we know that all form is simply a mode of motion, a rate of vibration. Therefore, any given vibration immediately modifies every atom in the body, every life cell is affected and an entire chemical change is made in every group of life cells.”Charles Haanel, The Master Key System, Part 22
I understand the connection between low vibration emotions and how they affect my thoughts, actions, and physical body. So, it makes sense that I don’t want to feel the “negative” emotions because I know the potential consequences that can come from them. However, like I said earlier, these low vibration emotions are still valid and a part of life. So how can I feel sadness, depression, etc without letting it affect the rest of me?
The answer is taking action, so I don’t dwell on those emotions! Og outlines a list of action steps I can take for a variety of thought forms: “If I feel depressed I will sing. If I feel sad I will laugh. If I feel ill I will double my labor. If I feel fear I will plunge ahead.” and so on. I’ve found that action has helped lift my mood in the past. I’ve cleaned the house while being mad; I’ve gone for a walk when I’d rather sit on the couch feeling sad; I’ve felt fear and done a task anyway. It works!
Og also helped give me a new perspective on always trying to be positive when he said, “Henceforth, I will know that only those with inferior ability can always be at their best, and I am not inferior.” Phew! What a relief! Not only is a spectrum of emotions normal, they are required for success.
Understanding that emotions will rise and fall daily as a part of nature brings me great comfort. I don’t have to spend energy trying to maintain a high vibrational state of emotion all the time. My job is to let what I feel be ok in the moment, and then use tools (action) to raise me back up again.